Most of the time I feel like I have this whole adult thing down! I go about my day knowing I rock at adulting. I pay my own bills, I’m good at my job and I actually enjoy it. I juggle a lot of projects and am getting an advanced degree. People trust me with their house keys, their animals, and their children. I throw amazing dinner parties, I make a mean Tom Collins (that’s a fancy adult drink if you didn’t know) and I cook. I make four kinds of pasta sauce from scratch and I even know how to glaze a ham.
And then there are days where I do not rock the adult thing. I eat PBJ and three meals in a row, spill my coffee all over my clothes, and forget 15 things I was supposed to do. Some days I am brutally reminded that in fact I am living with my parents and that when I post a status about cuddling with my main man, I mean a cat. There are Friday nights when I yell at the TV and drink too much wine with my mom. I have forgotten to do laundry and had febreeze my least dirty outfit to get through the day.
And here’s the thing….. That’s okay!
There’s no magic wand that you wave around when you reach your mid twenties that says Poof! Adult awesomeness bestowed. Being an adult is a struggle, life is a struggle; don’t fall into the social media trap of #winning.
So here’s what I do when I feel overwhelmed by the idea of being an adult or when I feel like somehow I’m not where I’m supposed to be.
1). Take a deep breath and spend 10 minutes on yourself. Get your eyebrows done; paint your nails, read that article you saw last week, take a shower. Whatever just gives ten minutes exclusively to yourself.
2) do something small but productive. Wash that pile of laundry that’s been there for a month, clean your room, pick out your clothes for the next few days, return that stack of redbox DVDs, finally built that ikea shoe rack that’s been taking up space in your closet for a year. You’ll instantly feel better when you accomplish something that’s actually going to matter! I’m a huge believer of to do lists because I love to violently cross things off them.
3) Write yourself a pep talk. Write down 5 (or more) things your good at and 5 things you’ve accomplished recently. And I interpret recently very broadly. The act of thinking about yourself and your accomplishments in a positive way is already going to boost your mood but then when you read it out loud to yourself you’ll get pumped up! Or you’ll feel silly, sometimes I do, but then I laugh at myself and it’s all good anyway.
4) And only to be done after you’ve brightened your mood with the above steps- poor yourself a big glass of wine and pat yourself on the back. Because adults drink wine, it requires a dignified palate.